The Church is not meeting single adult's needs

I am a single adult and I believe that the Church is falling down in meeting single adults' needs. It is true that we want to keep marriages together and most people that go to any church are married. But some of the reasons some singles don't go to church at all is because they have not received the care and love that a church body should give. They find they can receive more friendships from people at work or at secular things, like even a bar. Does the Church really want to be known that they can't be as friendly as secular people?


I have been to several different churches and right now am involved with one church quite a bit and have seen it in all but one of the churches, the lack of ministering to singles. There is no ministering to the single's needs per se. If someone in church finds out I am single, they immediately start talking about their husband or wife or the wife comes over or the husband moves away...


We have a single's group but at first it was all about how to avoid sin, now it brings married people into the group. We have small groups during the week which has singles and marrieds in them and that's fine, but why mess up the single's group with married people?And the emphasis is on outreach.


It is good for singles to reach out to others but sometimes people need healing within themselves first. Some singles are really hurting inside and need people that understand how they feel and can minister Jesus' love to them. As single we can feel very lonely at times and need just a phone call or a "come go with me to such and such..." or even, heaven forbid, "Would you like to come over for dinner?" We don't need to be treated as second class Christians.


I have written a book to encourage single people that God is still there even when you can't feel or see Him,(The Light in our Darkness) and have written several articles or blogs or whatever you want to call them, to share encouragement and have let the head of the Single's group -first one, then the other, know about them that I could even share with the group and I have gotten nowhere. There is an article just this month in the "Pentacostal Evangel"(pe@ag.org)about this very thing. This happens in all denominations, I am not just picking on AG churchs but we, as the Body of Christ, need to change things.

Hope

Hope


I haven't added another blog to all of these since for a while and yet people keep coming by and reading either the last one, or others- so many have come- I wish you would add comments.

Even so I think it is because we ARE going through hard times, lots of us, and we need reassurance and hope from somewhere.

Only God has the true hope that we need. Only He cares more for us than we could imagine.

It is hard as I have said to have hope when we look around us- the state of our country, people losing jobs and the lack of available jobs, people losing houses, prices going up and pay checks-if any- going down or staying the same. We loose loved ones or they are far away, family strains because of the times, even with jobs, not able to pay for proper healthcare, murders going up... Also, with me and my other single friends, we still want someone to be with, just to love us for who we are, and we are still single.

So, where is the Hope? Only God gives us that hope. Only He loves us whatever we do or don't do. Only He never leaves us or turns His back on us. He is ever wanting us to seek Him out, waiting for us to turn to Him, or giving us a tap saying, "I'm still here." People are saying that we are in the last days, but God said He would be with us, until the end of the world. He promises never to leave us.

In an ealier blog I left a video about "laminin" the substance in our bodies that holds all our ligaments together. It is in the shape of a cross! Our very bodies are held together by the power of God!

Hope is a rariety but God grants it if we look to Him, seek after Him, He grants it, saying He will never leave us.

Maybe it's time for a "wake up call"?

No one seems to be commenting on my previous post, probably because the people who agree with me seem to think that , "Of course, that's what we want" and think it was too simplistic or too clear and didn't feel the need to comment.

It IS simplistic and to the point. Why is it that the President and other people in Washington can't see that? This is a baby human, not an animal, and was given the right to life by our Creator, Who formed this baby in the womb, as well as the Constitution. I get discouraged when I see all the mighty efforts of "right to life" people overridden by the stroke of a pen. But we need to keep spreading the word and standing up for those who cannot speak. But most importantly we need to pray more and more.

I believe that the biggest reason our country is in the shape it is in is because most people here have left God. I don't mean any specific church but God, Himself. Taking prayer out of schools, not listening to those who are true to the Word, pastors or other people, the decay of morals through people saying they can decide for themselves what is wrong or right. This goes for those who have high powered jobs including Cogressmen and others in Government, and have stolen from the rest of us, as well as the people on the streets who have all decided that drugs, sex outside marriage, single people as well as those having affairs, etc. are ok unless they get caught. And the value of human life has gone down, partially due to abortion which has devalued human life. This can be seen in the stark increase in murders.

In Rev 6:9-10: "The souls of those who had been slain because of the word of God and the testimony they had maintained. 10They called out in a loud voice, "How long, Sovereign Lord, holy and true, until you judge the inhabitants of the earth and avenge our blood?" I believe that time is coming. In Isaiah 5:20 "Woe to those who call evil good and good evil, who put darkness for light and light for darkness, who put bitter for sweet and sweet for bitter."

It is time to PRAY Church like we never have before!

What about "right to life" for innocents?

I have become more discouraged with the things going on in our country. People have lost their perspective. As an individual I tried with other people and groups to work against the abortion laws, etc. And I feel things have taken a huge step backwards. So many people have worked actively, and behind the scenes, to protect our most innocent people and suddenly the laws have been reversed. The "choice"for birth has been given to the mother but not to the innocent baby.

What does the Bible say? Ps. 106:38 "They shed innocent blood, the blood of their sons and daughters, whom they sacrificed to the idols of Canaan, and the land was desecrated by their blood.39 They defiled themselves by what they did; by their deeds they prostituted themselves." The"idols of Canaan" are the god of "connivance" or "money"or "irresponsibility". People in our country seem to be more into wanting to have "things," are all upset with animal cruelty, keeping up with others with their homes and clothes, whether or not they can afford them, than the life of a child.

We of all people should defend the rights of the innocent. We mourn when a baby dies shortly after it is born or a young child is taken and killed. That is death of innocents. Well, so too is the death of a child before it has left the womb. The child, at whatever state of growth, is still a child. And as a child, he/she has all the rights of any individual that happens to be outside the womb.

So many children are born so very small and survive through the skills of doctors that have learned so much how to save smaller and smaller babies. And machines are being improved so much to keep the small ones alive. The womb is the best place for the baby to grow, but if something happens and the baby is born early there are so many things available to nurture and help the innocent ones to grow that there is no excuse for killing the baby. Murder is murder no matter what age of the child.

I am trying to have hope that people in this great country will finally realize the rights of all children. After all, the mother doesn't have to raise the child- there is always adoption for people who so want to have children but can't. Adoption is such a special thing for couples who want but can't have children. They want to experience the joys of bringing up a little one. These people will take care of the babies and give them a chance to live life.

There is so much more that can be added to this subject. I will be getting back to it.

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